If you have a toddler who acts like their shoes are lined with razor blades or venomous serpents, consider trying on a pair of these delights. They are called Padraigs and they’re little knitted slippers with a tough leather sole, lined with sheepskin.

Olive had them when she was younger, and received this pair for her birthday from Adam’s twin sister. They are currently the best bet for shoes that will go on without a fight! They wouldn’t be great in rain or snow, but for this gorgeous fall weather they are sublime.

Just thought I’d share for anyone else wanting to avoid the shoe-wars!

(P.S. They come in adult sizes. So far I have managed to restrain myself. But for how long?!)

The Road

by Chris Piascik

The other day I had a peculiar thought, and that thought was, “I have everything I have ever wanted.”

Which sounds obnoxiously braggy, especially reading it on a blog, because it seems like blogs are, on the whole, becoming utterly obnoxious and braggy places, but it wasn’t thought with a sense of smug satisfaction.

[Tangent: I hope I am not part of the problem, one of these shiny facades, these carefully selected snippets of blog life that are being  generated and then thrown in our faces to elicit envy. I've tried to be transparent about life, the ups and downs, while also trying to avoid being a giant buzzkill. I'm never sure how well I'm navigating that divide, but I feel fairly confident that it's clear to most of you that this life, well  I love it most days, but it is far from a perfect one. And, well, we know how I feel about perfect, hmm?]

Anyway, this thought just sort of emerged and stood there starkly in front of me. A bit uncomfortably, perhaps, while I looked at it with that same mix of joy and fear you experience the first time you see your crush naked.

Goosebumps formed.

I was in the middle of a tantrum. Olive was, I mean. We were trying to get out the door and footwear is an ISSUE lately. Capitals. So we were battling about footwear and I was giving it everything I had in my parenting arsenal, just chucking different strategies at her one after the other – getting on her level and explaining, giving her options ( Me in my patient voice: “OK Olive, rain boots, or running shoes?” her:  “No.”), brute force, bribery, nothing was working. So I was overheating in my coat and wracking my brain for the solution to this ridiculous, ridiculous problem when that thought popped up and stood there, naked.

I have everything I have ever wanted.

And over the screams I was startled. How could that be?

I ran through a checklist.

I have Adam, all there is and all there has ever been. The man, the muse, the dance moves. Every inch of the infuriating mess and bluntness of him. Mine, unequivocally. Yes. I do, I did, I will.

I have this child, this girl child currently arching her back and twisting out of her stroller straps from the utter injustice of cold weather and societal norms re: footwear. This strong, whip-smart, healthy as hell toddler. Like me and like Adam in all the right ways.

I have my health (mostly. where it counts), and my family.

I have a book, a book out there making its small impression on the world. Hopping into the hands of people in Australia and India, and even infiltrating libraries. I exist to people I have never met.

And we have a home.

This last one is no small thing. And this is where the curtain gets drawn back and the shiny blog facade is shattered, because for so long we didn’t have one. Ha.

In March 2013 Adam sold his business, and we moved to a new town to settle down and carve out a life. We stayed with Adam’s parents while looking for a house to buy. We planned for it to take 1-2 months. We lived with them for over a year.

Houses were everywhere, but jobs were nonexistent. And although, if you had to be in a state of suspended animation, this would be the place to do it – this town perched on a hill overlooking the ocean – it was incredibly difficult. Losing our independence was demoralizing, we couldn’t agree on when to pull the plug and move on, Olive was growing up in a warm and loving extended family but I felt like I was failing in a very fundamental way as a mother by not having a place for her to call her own.

I say that we didn’t have a home, but we did, we always did. It just wasn’t ours.

Finally Adam was offered a job in Edmonton and we jumped, we JUMPED as fast as we could. We were so ready. And then came three more months of stasis, staying with my brother while we searched again for a house to buy. And it seemed our situation had been cruelly flipped – work was plentiful, but houses were being snapped up faster than we could see them.

So, long story short, this was not a pleasant experience. Not for the experience itself, so much as what it meant. Adam’s parents are incredible, kind, and selfless people. It was lovely. But it meant we were failing. And I didn’t write about it as much as I should have. I sometimes referred to our rootlessness, I made oblique references to what was happening, but I never sat down and poured out how fucking shitty it felt.

I have eight drafts half-finished that did just that, but I couldn’t publish them. I was too ashamed and embarrassed to acknowledge what was happening in my life, because it didn’t feel like my life. HOW was this my life? But I should have. I should have written about it, and published those drafts,  and then listened to the voices that came back. Because they, some of them, would have said, “Me too.” These replies would have been there, and they would have helped.

Nonetheless, I didn’t. Cowardly lion! And then buying this house was a big deal. Finally unpacking was a BIG. DEAL.

And that’s why when this thought popped into my head mid-tantrum it wasn’t acknowledged with smug satisfaction, or brushed aside (“I know. I know.”). It was instead followed by a swift undercurrent of pure fear.

Because now it will be taken away.


(This is how you do positive thinking, I’m pretty sure.)

Staying at home with our daughter, being paid to write, with our health and food in the fridge and bills paid and sometimes even enough left over for fun (and sometimes not, because although we’re a one-income family, we are not the Kennedy’s. It’s tight sometimes. Most times? It takes a lot of finessing, this one-income situation. Ha, that’s another post I think.)

In the days and weeks since I recognized that thought, I have realized that I am waiting. Waiting for something to happen. Something bad. Something that will take all of this away. I don’t know if it’s because it took so long to get to this place, or because it feels too precious, or perhaps we can become armchair psychologists and deduce that deep down I don’t really think I deserve it, but I am certain that it won’t last. And how bizarre that in the midst of all this my response is not to clutch it closer and squeeze each last drop of joy from it, but to sort of detach… Just in case.

So sometimes it is easier to focus on the dishes. The baseboards. The desk. Anything rather than acknowledging this dark mass prowling around the edges of this, my perfectly imperfect life.


This is not the post I meant to write. I meant to write about making it work as a stay-at-home mom. But I think this is the post I need to publish.

Fuck perfect.

This long, tangled, winding road got me here. I walked every step, sometimes sore and weary, to get to this place where I get to stand in my front hall and have epic battles trying to unravel the mysterious torments of toddler footwear. I get to do this.

Going forward I am trying to unravel this mess. I am trying to work on gratitude, and shaking off the fear. Trying to unseat it with the knowledge that this- we, are here to stay.

And maybe even get better.

So fuck perfect, I’m not perfect. Far from. I’m imperfectly cast and inexpertly turned. I wage pointless battles, often against myself. And then I lay them here, bare, at your feet, and see what comes back.

So far, if I’m honest, I’ve never been disappointed.

I did a thing! Look at this thing I did!

Let’s subject you to ill-lit and shot iPhone photographs of this thing I did, because I feel immensely fabulous about it and need the mighty approval of The Internets slapping me on the back as well.

We had a door in our basement. It used to sit between the kitchen and side door, but was taken down years ago, I imagine because it was completely useless. So we discovered it sitting downstairs and it looked like this.


Now most ordinary, foolish, idiot people would say to themselves, “Huh. That’s an old door.” but not me. Because you see, I have Pinterest. And I pinned a pin from a pinner years ago that looked like this:


and although my door is nowhere near as rustic or, well, Pinterest-y as that door (it has to be some variation on robin’s egg blue to be Pinterest-y, I think. Or involve mason jars or pallets somehow. This door failed on all three fronts.)

I still knew that this door could become a desk. So I stripped it of all its hardware and got down to business.


I had also happened across this photo, in my travels.


And I even already had a globe – a French globe, $7 from Value Village.

So now we had the recipe, Pinterest door desk + Pinterest yellow filing cabinet + Madeleine =

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BOOM! Look at that poorly lit, pixelated glory! (So sorry – my camera is MIA at the moment)

The how: I spray painted our old beat-up black filing cabinet that we’ve had since Adam’s university days (Rustoleum sun yellow. Recycle the canister when you’re done!), and I painted the door BM Simply White, because it’s what we had on hand for our trim (I actually painted it white about eight times. The first four with homemade chalk paint, which failed to live up to the savaging from electricians working on our house, and so I peeled the rest of it off, and did it PROPERLY, by priming and painting it again.)

The filing cabinet forms one leg, and a trestle leg from IKEA forms the other, and also serves as a handy little shelf for our printer. I use my old Samsonite train case as a place to corral thank-you notes, pens, clips, and all manner of whats-its.

The hole where the doorknob used to be is perfect for cords, and I wasn’t too worried about the hinge cutouts on the front lip. It’s a door. I mean, that’s the cool part, right? So why hide it?

Anyway. That’s a thing I did. This is a thing Adam did

Ironing board cupboard into a spice rack - SweetMadeleine.caHe used wood that formed the wood valance in our living room and cut it down to re-purpose the old ironing board cupboard in our kitchen into a spice rack. He cut each piece a tiny bit too long and then tapped them into place with a hammer to secure them in place, so we didn’t need to use brackets to support them underneath.

Aaaaand this is a thing Olive did

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First haircut! It really doesn’t look much different, but they lopped off about 1.5 inches and trimmed everything up so she looks less Phillip Seymour Hoffman/Chris Farley-esque (may they both rest in peace.)

I have a real post coming up, with thoughts. Deeper than desks and haircuts. I am just finding it tough to write lately. My energy is being spent elsewhere and I’m trying to build it up again while also avoiding The Migraines – thank you so much to everyone who offered advice on that front, by the way.

We celebrated Thanksgiving in Canada on Monday – and I have so much to be thankful for. My little office is the least of it, but I am so thankful to have a dedicated writing space for the first time ever nonetheless.